It
is reported that more than half of people have snooped on their partner’s
phone. Nothing is more attractive than snooping though other’s little secrets.
In fact, even if your partner is upright and loyal enough, there is still a great
chance to find out something unpleasant.
Your
boyfriend/girlfriend is taking shower and you are lying on the sofa. His phone
is placed on the sofa next you. You know his pin and messaging apps’ password.
Just take a look see if he is cheating on you or flirting with other girls?
What will you do? Snoop on his phone or give him 100% trust?
I
made a survey on Facebook and collected a lot of feedbacks from friends and
family. More than half of them choose to look at their partner’s phone and some
of them admitted that they have been doing so for a very long time. Here I must
admit that I’ve looked through my boyfriend’s phone in the past. Curiosity
likes an itch under your skin, and it always distracts your attention and
pushes you to snoop on your partner’s privacy under the name of love.
Snooping in the
Name of Love
In
an emotional video issued by Kourtney Jorge on Twitter, she had a face-to-face
talk with her ex-boyfriend about his infidelity and emotional abuse that
ultimately led to their separation. When Leonard found out Kourtney broke into
his emails in search of evidence that he had been cheating, he was offended by
the violation. They start fighting a lot. At first, he had patience to explain
and make good excuses. But gradually, he became more and more impatient to make
excuses which made Kourtney completely lose mind. She became a snooper. She
tore through cellphone records and installed software to open encrypted apps,
gathering the details she could. In her heart, she had believed in absolutely private space in a relationship. Snooping
in the name of love is the way giving him more excuses to cheat on you. And
hypervigilance can be controlling and push someone away.
Infidelity in the
Name of Snooping
“What
did you do?” Kourtney asked in this video. Leonard replied calmly “I did
everything. I've had sex with other girls.” The most irritated reply is that he
even can’t count how many times he cheated on her. Leonard asked why she not
leave even after so many lies and hurts he brought. Kourtney responded, “Because
you’re my best friend.” If someone cheated on you one time, and you forgive him.
That means there are 99% opportunity for him to cheat on you again in the
future, because the cheating cost is getting lower and lower for him. It’s like
a snowball at first, but as time passes by it grows fast and, finally, become a
big thing ruining and smashing your relationship. At the same time, the
betrayer makes his greatest efforts to practice how to tell lies and how to use
different kinds of snoop-proof apps to anti-break. Your relationship likes a
battle where no love left.
It’s Time to Leave
If Snooping is Necessary
Some people believe snooping is a
necessary way to find out the truth and verify their minds. According to a
report, the vast majority of the 56,000 questioned discovered infidelity by
snooping on cellphones, emails or messaging app’s account, and about half of
them has a separation ending. We all have this situation, and we all have to
face it. Oftentimes we act out in relationships when our needs aren’t being
met. But the only way to really get what you need is to ask for it! If you have
doubts or questions, even there are so many WHYs in your heart almost spilling
out, just say “I’m having these fears that why you always lock things in your phone?” Approach it calmly, in a non-accusatory manner. Whenever you
have worries, communicate, rather than investigate. This approach is the best
way to respect yourself, your partner and the relationship. If you still cannot
resist the surge to spy on your partner, maybe it’s the time for you to leave
and say farewell to this relationship!
